Category Archives: about Life

the loved ones, because whom the life become more cheerful

Someone says that Life is like a roller coaster, sometime we feel getting UP and sometime we feel getting DOWN. Happiness and sadness interchangeably greets us as a temptation.When we are happy, everything looks just very easy. When we are sad  everything looks nothing but troublesome. However, there is always a reason to cheer up and to be stronger, even when we are in the bottom of extremely bad position. For me, the reason is my family.


There is a time in a day, I always  wait  for, it is a time being together with you.


There is a day in a week, I always want to,  it is a day spending  together with you.


There is some one to whom I always look for, it is you.


There is a gift, because what I always feel happy, it is you.


There is a story that I always want to tell you, it is story about you.



There is a place where I always feel home,  it is a place where you are



It is you that make me feel blessed all the day. Thanks God, for this full of blessing life. Thanks my loved ones, for being with me.

*) Location : George Green Wind Mill and Science Centre, University of Nottingham, Jubilee Campus.

The First Page of A New Chapter from Our Loving History Book

“… even, you do not know (exactly) what will happen tomorrow.” – a random verse of Qur’an.


What does really define our Life? This question must have different answer from differing people. Even, for my self, it is changing over the times. What I understood about life  several years ago could be exactly different with what I am understanding now. Lately, my family really defines what my life is all about. For me, my family is a place where I always want to go home to wherever I am. A place where I always feel comfort, even in troublesome occasion.

Time is ticking. After more than a year being apart from my family, thankfully, right now, we can see the same sun in the same place together again. And it is the new chapter of our loving history book, living in Nottingham, United of Kingdom. Hopefully,  everything does not change but being better afterwards. Because, I do believe that nothing never happens without a reason. Though, frequently we do not know the reason until a long time later on.

Solo, Adi Soemarmo International Airport, 12 January 2014

It is always not easy thing, even the hardest thing in life, to say Good Bye to the loved ones. A bunch of thanks for everything you do my beloved parents, sister and brothers, nieces for consistent supporting us which no one will do but you. I will be always missing you everyday and hope to see you soon in the future.


Jakarta, Soekarno Hatta International Airport, 13 January 2014 (00:25 pm)

It was really very  early in the morning. The stewardess told us to fasten the seat belt, and the plane will fly to Qatar. But, I don’t know why, my heart just do not want to let me go. How difficult living in this homeland country never make me easy to say good bye. Again, I should realize that whatever happens I do love you my mother land, a place where I want to dedicate the rest of my Life until I have to close my eyes forever.

Doha, Qatar International Airport, 13 January 2014 (06.00 am)

It was the first flight for my son, Ilyas,  and it was a very long and boring on the sky. He cried when he felt so boring during the 8 hours flight from Jakarta to Doha. I saw him laugh out again, he met his first female British friend in the air port. They look very happy to meet each other, and they play hide and seek together. They found their own way to be happy. Unfortunately, they should say good bye again very soon after that lovely coincidental meeting. Hopefully, they will meet again in random time in the future.


Manchester International Airport, 13 January 2014 (02.00 pm)

After another 8 hours flight, finally we arrived at Manchester, United of Kingdom. It was not our final destination. We have another coach trip for 4 hours from Manchester to Nottingham.

The New Sun Shine From Nottingham


Finally, we live together in this lovely city. A placed where we will learn many things about life and love. Priceless experiences that we will never forget and appreciate much in the future. A place we put a bunch of hope together for a better life. Welcome to Nottingham my loved ones. Let us start our first step in this fruitful chapter of our life. Hope you will be always happy and enjoy your wonderful life here. Let us write this life story with our gold ink. A story that will be always nice to remember in the future. A story about I, you, life, love, and God who always one and the only one behind the scenario of our life story. To whom we will go home in the end of the day.

We and our life are never perfect. But, come along with you we can turn this imperfectness into great opportunities.


Now, I always have a reason to never give up. A reason to be fully charged in my single day. A reason to never feel lonely. It is your smiles. Now, none of each single time but happiness. Because, we will be always together, inshaa Allah. O, ya Allah, bless our family as always. Give me a full of blessing life now, and after. Ammiiin.

the biggest enemy is ….

Frequently, we are too busy in looking for something or someone else to be condemned to, when something does not happen as it should be. Whereas, actually the root problem is in yourself. Why? Because your biggest enemy is no others but yourself.

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Who is the biggest enemy in your life?

I believe that basically, everyone has the same chance and equal time to achieve their very best in their life. However, at the end of day not everyone can achieve it. Why? Frequently, we are too busy to condemn our circumstances as a reason not to succeed.  Let us say in my cases. When I was studying in the University in Indonesia, I frequently regret the lack of reference books and other learning resources as well as the slow  internet connection as a big reason of my study outcome to be not maximum.

But, when I am now here. When everything looks so perfect, surrounded by excellent learning resources and academic staff, do I get my very best in my study?

I should think a thousand times again to say “yes I do”. Eventually, I must realize that the root problem is on my self. Sometime, it is much easier to manage and control the other people. But, controlling your self is totally different thing. Controlling your bad feeling, bad desire, bad attitude and behavior such as laziness and procrastination is frankly not easy thing. Indeed, managing ourselves is much more complicated than managing other people.

That’s why, it is very reasonable that The Prophet Muhamad, peace be upon him, ever said after Badar war, the biggest and toughest war in islamic history, that : there is a bigger war than the Badar war,  that is a war against (bad desire) our selves.

So, starting from now on please stop blaming and condemning the others. Let us be honest to our selves and take action to improve ourselves. You, yourself, the one who know perfectly the problems of yourself as well as the solution of the problems.

when I was down and wanted to Give Up, but …

She is Getun (literally means Regretful). She is a poor little girl from poor family. She was born without hands. Her life is never easy. But she is so strong. She is so independent. She is so inspiring adorable. She can do what normal people can do, even better, proven by her plausible achievement. Because she never gives up with her fate.


During my PhD journey, some time I feel my life is not easy. Frequently, I feel so worry wondering whether I can succeed or not. On the bad day I was down and wanted to give up. But this little girl really slapped my face. It was very unreasonable for me to give up and feel discouraged.

She lives a never easy Life. But, she is very strong and independent. She is so clever in her school. She can sing and play music. She is very nice girl. She cares and helps the other. She never gives up with her fate. She has embarrassed me who frequently feel lazy and discourage to lead this Life.

For you who feel down and think to give up struggling to achieve your determination ,  please have a look this video and think 1000 times again to give up ! Thank Getun for your inspiration. Allah blesses you forever.

being happy or smart?

Happiness is … being smart and having much money… 

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Every person has her/his own right to define what Happiness is. What I define as a happiness could be totally different with yours. But, happiness is a common sense what every person is looking for in his/her life.

Three days ago, in my way to home, I had a serious discussion with a friend of mine i.e. Mas Yodi about happiness. At the end, we shared the same opinion that living in Indonesia is much happier than living in the U.K. Even though living in Indonesia is surrounded by problematic circumstances and living in the UK is surrounded by excellent easiness of Life. It could be rather ridiculous that sometime we miss the terrible traffic jam in Jakarta but it is true.

Today, we had another interesting discussion in ITS  alumni network mailing list about  the data reported by OECD  . The report revealed the fact that  the countries with the smartest students also reported the unhappiest kids. As an example, though Indonesia is reported as the word’s second-worst in Maths but it is also reported that Indonesia’s kids are the happiest students in the world. Contrarily, South Korea kids are reported as world’s smartest but  also unhappiest  students. (Have a look at the picture bellow for detail).


Personally, I am not wondering this fact. I totally agree with this fact and it really describes what I feel so far. I think it is not only a disclosed fact for kids but also for Indonesia’s people as general.

When I first came and saw life at glance in the UK, I felt so excited and very happy. I felt so lucky to have a chance to live in the UK Life. Here, I can find the uppermost advancement of world’s human being civilization. I found how easy and enjoyable living here in the UK. Almost every aspect of life is well-defined, well-organized, and well-solved that make people live in very well-being way. Excellent public services in transport, health, security, education, community, and social welfare are one of many reasons that make a better quality of life, here .

Eventually, at the end of the day I realized that living here is not so perfect. On the day when I found terribly arid social life here. I found many people don’t care with the other people even with their God. Really, it is not easy for me to understand why many people prefer making friend and live with a dog to making friend and live with other people. Why they prefer talk to a book or a gadget than talk to other people by their side? Why people prefer to take care pets to babies? It is also miserable that I found so many churches but they lost their parish that make them no more than old haunted building surrounded by grave.

To be honest, frequently I feel not happy here. Just because I felt so lonely and isolated. I missed warm relationship with family and other people. Thanks to friends of mine that cheer up day by day here.

What a lesson learnt from this fact is that while Indonesia as a developing country managing to elevate advancement in all aspect of human life, we should maintain our genuine local wisdom as well as our local cultural heritage. It should never happen that our advancement in technology destroys our excellent warm social life. It should never happen the better physical quality of life ruins the spiritual quality of life. While people getting better in science, technology and art education, religious practice and education should not be ignored. Because what social life that Indonesian have today such as strong family relationship, warm inter-personal relationship, hospitality, and religious practices are the source of genuine happiness.